The Initial Diagnosis
Posted on April 19, 2019 by All In
When you first find out that your child has special needs, you may feel anxious and stressed. Your mind may be filled with never-ending questions and you may feel alone.
Take your time to ask as many questions as you need.
You may speak to doctors, other professionals, and parents of children with special needs to get answers. A list of resources for parents of children with special needs can be found throughout this website.
Remember that you are not alone.
Talking to friends and family about what you’re going through may be helpful. This will also help them understand the special needs of your child better. You may also participate in support groups to meet other parents who are in a similar situation.
Accept help when you need it.
Even strong people need to have downtime. Don’t try to do it all yourself thinking you don’t wish to bother others.
One step at a time.
You may be concerned about your child’s future, but take things one step at a time. You will find professionals along the way who will provide advice in making decisions for your child.
Continue to love your child.
Every child is unique. They have their own individual personality and potential to learn. All children require love, security, encouragement, and opportunities to learn and grow. Treat your child like any other child to provide opportunities for your child to reach his/her fullest potential.
Try to appreciate Holland.
American author Emily Perl Kingsley wrote that having a child with special needs is like planning a dream vacation to Italy, but the excitement becomes disappointment when the plane lands in Holland instead.
Even though “everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned,” it is important to understand that “It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts. […] if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.”
Read her full essay here.